How to Stop Watching Porn as a Catholic Man (5 tips from a personal story)

By | October 23, 2019


I first came across pornography when I
was nine years old. Like many of those who struggle with pornography addiction
in adulthood, it was from wounds in my childhood and problems that I had
mentally emotionally that led me to seek out this terrible destructive drug. Now
at this point in my life, due to the fact that I grew up and through so
many of my formative years was dealing with this addiction, at my older
age now it’s incredibly difficult still for me to break away from this problem.
There are many Catholic men who struggle with this and it’s very very hard for
them to share this journey in the struggle with others that they’re close
to them with their family or with their friends or people who can help them.
There are five specific things I’d like to share today, ways that I found to be
very helpful in overcoming pornography addiction. The first one is to get in a
program and I don’t mean Sexual Addiction Anonymous or something like
that, there’s actually an online program called reclaim sexual health that I
found to be very helpful. It’s $50 a month and this program is designed by
Catholics for Catholics. It includes elements of Catholic teaching but more
specifically it includes real psychological help and tools that you
can use to make progress in your fight against pornography. Reclaim Sexual Health
has been used by many including myself to make incredible progress in their
pornography addiction and in many cases to overcome it entirely. The second thing
I’d like to say is get an accountability partner. I don’t like that language
because it’s thrown around a lot, but the reality is that if you don’t share your
struggle with at least one person who can tell you what you need to hear in
some cases that might be it’s okay you’re doing great keep going, and in
some cases it may be hey that wasn’t a great idea or maybe you should stop
doing that if you want to make progress. An accountability partner can really
help you to start to see where you’re going wrong or where you can do better
or how you’re doing well to begin with. Because we also need that
motivation and that positive energy. I myself have a weekly call with my dad
and I talk to him about things that I’m struggling with I talk about the
progress that I’m making and he helps me see where I might do better or see where
I’m doing well. A third thing is to stop drinking alcohol. I have done my best to
cut alcohol entirely out of my life I’ve always found that whenever I’m drinking
in any scenario it makes it more likely for me to fall in
porn. No matter how you shake it alcohol lowers your inhibitions even if it’s
just one beer it makes it more likely that you’re gonna end up falling into
porn and it’s better if you really are serious about overcoming a pornography
addiction to cut it out of your life entirely. One thing that I did
specifically to cut alcohol out of my life was that I took my fridge, I had
alcohol in my fridge, and it was a struggle for me it was very difficult
for me to stop drinking. It wasn’t that I drank a lot was that I enjoyed drinking
especially socially and so the thing I finally did that helped me really cut
drinking out of my life entirely was I took all of the alcohol in my fridge and
I opened all of the bottles and I poured them down my drain and this act of
rejecting the alcohol of proving to myself that it really meant nothing, was
instrumental in my ability to start to reject alcohol in all the areas of my
life, now it’s much easier for me to say no thanks I don’t need a drink or I’m
not drinking anymore. A fourth thing I’ll say is: go to confession quickly. A lot of
times it can be embarrassing especially whenever you find yourself repeating a
sin over and over again. You don’t want to go to confession again right you
don’t want to say father it’s been three days or it’s been four days or it’s been
one day since my last confession. Don’t worry about what the priest thinks.
In many instances, priests don’t understand what addiction is really like
for a person and it’s more important for you to get right with God and for you to
have the peace to move on and to start over again than it is for you to have
the affirmation of a priest. Remember when you go to confession you’re going
to confession to Jesus and when you are struggling with an addiction
every time you wait to go to confession you make it more likely that you’ll fall
into the sin again. I know myself I have often put off confession and say well
I’ll just go next week and I’ve ended up having another setback or multiple more
setbacks, because I didn’t get back in the right frame of mind and get right
with God. Go to confession quickly and don’t worry if it’s been a short period
of time, that’s between you and God. Lastly go to Mass and say the Rosary.
There are many spiritual things you can do to make progress. You can pray more,
you can say holy hours, I have personally found that trying to go to daily Mass
and also pray a rosary every day have both been the most instrumental things
for me in growing my relationship with God and the reason that this has been
important is because not only does it help me to grow in grace and not only
does God give me more Grace’s when I go to Mass and pray the rosary often, but
when I’m going to daily Mass it also makes me think more about whether or not
I’m going to have a setback, because then I will be able to receive Communion at
the next time I go to Mass and so I think do I really want to have another
back here when I’m trying to go to Mass in the morning and then I’m have to go
to confession again and it kind of keeps it fresh in my mind, but I want to be
Holy every single day I want to make it to Mass every single day and if I’m falling into pornography again and again and again it
makes it more difficult for me to make it to mass every day.
Plus every time I have a setback every time I look at pornography it makes me
feel like I shouldn’t go to Mass it makes it harder for me to make myself go
to mass mass is where our hearts can truly be changed. It’s where Jesus can
really work in our lives and so if you’re gonna adopt some spiritual
practices I strongly recommend that you try to make it to mass as often as you
possibly can during the week and pray the rosary if you can every single day.
Now those are my five tips that I found to be the most extremely helpful and
getting over pornography or making progress in this addiction it’s the kind
of thing where you will spend years of your life fighting this addiction and if
you truly are on the path to recovery you’re gonna have to make some serious
choices in your life. I’m not saying it’s gonna be easy I myself am proof that
it’s not and I know that I don’t do as much as I should, but these practices
have helped me immensely and they have made the most progress in my life and
they are the reason I feel hopeful about overcoming this addiction. I strongly
suggest that you try adopting these practices in your own life. God Bless

4 thoughts on “How to Stop Watching Porn as a Catholic Man (5 tips from a personal story)

  1. Overt TV Post author

    What has helped you in your fight against a porn addiction?

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  2. Marci HF Post author

    I am a woman and I wasn't a porn addict but I could watch pornographic images with no problem. I didn't think any wrong in it. Well as soon as I started praying daily and praying the rosary every day my desire to watch sexual images started decreasing. Also, pornography started bothering me where as it never bothered me before. The funny thing is when I started praying daily I never prayed for an end to porn addiction. God knows what we need more than we do.

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  3. Salk Toftly Post author

    Here's what I did, hope it helps somebody. I've been free from porn and masturbation for eight months and never looks back. The biggest thing I did to help myself was go into my router settings and put up keyword blocks for as many porn domain names as I could think of and a few basic keywords. It's so easy to end up on a porn site almost without even thinking because of browser autocompletion. Adding this blocks made it so I didn't feel shame for having tried to access a site because I had already taken the steps to block myself. Then if I really wanted the stimulation, I was going to have to jump through some hoops to get to it, which was plenty enough friction for me think twice. Doing this at the router level means that every internet connection in your household has this feature so you can't just switch to your ipad or iphone, it's blocked their too. Another benefit to this is that, if you have other people in the household, it sends them a message as well. All the sudden the normal sites they visit stop working. Maybe this is a little underhanded but I think it's worth it. They aren't going to come to you to complain because they aren't going to know why it's happening, most people don't know shit about router configs. If they ask you about it then they are admitting their dependency so shame will keep them silent. They can still get their porn if they really want it because it's impossible to block all porn sites, there's just too many, but they will also have to work a little harder to find it, which is often enough for people to think twice. "Why am I working so hard for this? I went how many goooooogle pages in to find that?" After that orgasm they will probably feel heightened shame for the energy they wasted. This was a very effective method for me. I was noticing how mindless the act of navigating to a porn site was. So you have to get in your own way and force yourself to think twice. Or once even.
    I have since increased by relationship with God and have started praying for the first time in my life. My orientation towards my woman has changed in that I don't project selfish sexual desire onto her, instead trying to make sex a more special and intimate occasion. I've reconnected the sexual act with the procreative and that increases my love and commitment to her.

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  4. Fing Book Post author

    real work, this video. what a failure past generations were on this. Happened in my lifetime. "Ppl v Larry Flynt" was a downhill bad move on the part of society.

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